A parent walks in with a tired face… but their child bursts into the dojang, running around fearlessly. At home, they may not listen, skip homework, and fight with siblings. But here, they laugh, run, and focus as if they’ve stepped into a different world.

It reminds me of a line from “Reading Adler’s Psychology at Night”: “Never conclude that change is impossible. Even in the worst situations, find a way to reach the child.”

Recently, while reading the book, I came across this powerful insight. The author emphasizes that no matter how hopeless a child’s situation may seem, we must never conclude that change is impossible. Even in what appears to be the worst circumstances, we must find a way to reach that child.

In Adlerian psychology, the focus is not on “causal thinking” but on “teleological thinking.” Causal thinking assumes that a person’s current state is determined by past events or circumstances. In contrast, teleological thinking believes that it is one’s goals and future direction that shape behavior. 

This shift in perspective allows us to see a child’s current state not as an unchangeable result, but as a changeable possibility.

I believe this principle aligns perfectly with Taekwondo education. Taekwondo is not merely physical training. It is a disciplined practice that teaches patience, respect, and self-control. Through training, children learn to strengthen both their bodies and minds, moving forward toward new goals instead of being stuck in negative past experiences.

At our dojang, we go beyond simple training. We use a special temperament assessment to understand each child’s unique personality and strengths. 

Then, we provide individualized feedback to help them develop in the most effective way possible. This personalized approach motivates children to discover their potential and take active steps toward self-improvement.

Transformation in children does not happen overnight. But if we believe in their potential and walk with them step by step, there will come a moment when they stand before us as a completely different person. As Adler teaches, true change begins when we stop looking at the past and start focusing on the future.